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menshouldmarrywhentheyareyoung，andwomenshouldmarrywhentheyareyoung.thishasbeenanunchangingprinciplesinceancienttimes.Althoughitisnowadvocatedtochangecustomsandengageinnewweddings，paredtothe1960sand1970s，ithasbeemoreluxuriousandthesimplecustomsofpeoplenolongerexist.IamfromZhuzhou，hunan.LetmetalkabouttheweddingcustomsinZhuzhou.

isitingandEngaging

matchmakerestoproposemarriage

whenmenandwomenreachtheageofmarriage，theirparentsfirstfindamatchmaker.whenthematchmakerdiscoversthatthereissomeoneofappropriateageinthefamily，theyfirstmunicatewiththeirparentsandthenscheduleadatetoarrangeablinddatelocation，usuallyamarketplace.onthedayofthemarket，boththemanandthewomangotothedesignatedlocation，takealookateachother，sayafewwords，andshowtheircheerfulpersonalityonthespot.Generally，theywillreturnhomeandtalktothematchmaker.Afteragreeing，themanwillchooseadateforengagement（wecallitdingshithere）.thereisalsoatypethatisfavoredbyoneselforbyparents，suchascousins.Iftheyarerelated，parentswillentrustanacquaintancetoactasamatchmaker.Inthe1960sand1970s，manycousinsgotmarriedinruralareas，andthethirdrepresentativeofsiblingsgettingmarriedwasmore.thisiscalled"

newrelativesgettingmarriedwitholdrelatives"

，whichisevenmorejoyful，butthiskindofcloserelativesgettingmarriedisstillnotgood.

theengagementrequiresfourkindsofgifts，thatis，afewpiecesofcloth.decentfamilieswillusedacronanddacronfabrics，nylonsocks，andthosewithpooreconomicconditionswillusekhakiclothandcottonsocks.Inthisway，eveniftheengagementissuccessful，themancangotothewomanshomeandsendsomegiftstothewomanshomefortheNewYearholiday.Generally，thefourkindsofgiftsarethesame，namely，thebeginningofSummerFestival，thedragonboatFestival，themid-AutumnFestivalandtheSpringFestival.meat，eggs，noodlesAndapieceoffabric，afterayearortwo，whenbothpartieshavenoobjections，thewomantellsthematchmakerthattheycancuttheshoesample（thatis，themantellsthewomanthesizeoftheshoeswornbyhisfamily）.themangivesthewomansomemoneyforcuttingthesample，whichwasonlyafewtensofyuanatthattime.thewomanneedstomakeapairofshoesforeachmemberofthemansfamilyandmatchthemwithhand-embroideredinsoles.

preparationbeforeandaftermarriage

Anecessarydowryforwomen

beforemarriage，themangivesthewomansomemoneytobuyadowry.dependingonthefamilyseconomicconditions，hecangivethewomanthreetofivethousandyuanatonce，andregardlessofhowmuchmoneyshereceivesfromtheman，thesethingsmustbeallocated.onelargewardrobeorbinationcabinet，onetable，fourchairs，onebtable，onefoodcabinet，onewashbasinrack，twolargewoodencases，onesmallwoodencaseorleathercase（similartothelargertravelcaseatpresent），twohotwaterbottles，cupsandtoothbrushes，aluminumpotsforboilingwater，pressurecookerandotherdailynecessities，fourquiltsandapairofpillows.thosewithgoodfamilyconditionswillbeequippedwithamensbicycle，asewingmachine，ablackandwhitetVset，anelectricfan，etc.Infact，nomatterhowmuchmoneythemangivesthewoman，thewomansparentsbasicallydontusemuchofthemoney，andtheyreturnittotheirdaughtertomakecontainermoney.

whatthemanmustprepare

Inadditiontogivingthewomanthreeorfivethousandyuan，themanonlyneedstoprepareoneortwonewhousesanddoesntcareaboutanythingelse.Ifthemansfamilyispoorandthereisnodowryforthewoman，thewomanwillalsobringallthedailynecessities.

onthedaybeforemarriage，themanmustpayagifttothewoman.thegiftsinclude:halforonepig，chicken，clothesorfabrics，shoesandsocksofthewomansparents，brothersandsisters.Allthingsshouldbeputinplace.Abigrackshouldbeusedtocarrythemtothewoman，sothatthewomansonlookerscanknowwhatsingataglance.Ifthemansfamilyconditionisnotgood，hewillborrowsomethingtoputonittosaveface，becauseallthethingsthatwentthroughtheceremony，exceptforthefood，returnedtothemanthenextday.

thewomanshouldprepareasfollows

putredpacketsinthequilt，usuallytwopackets，eachofwhichis40centsforthebedmaker.thebigwoodenboxisfulloffruit，peanuts，sweetpotatochips，eggs，candybiscuits，andclothes，shoesandsockswhenyouseethemansparents，brothersandsistersinthemansside.Inaddition，theparentsalsoneedtogivethedaughtersomeboxmoney（hundredstothousandsdependingontheconditions）.becauseaftermarryingtheman，themother-in-lawwillopentheboxthenextday，andpeopleinthevillagewillearoundtoseetheexcitement，thepurposeistoseeifthewomanhasgivenenoughmoneyforthecontainer.

onthedaybeforemarriage，thewomanwillnotifythemanhowmanypeoplewilletoliftthingsthenextday.Generally，eightormoremenarerequiredbecausethewomanneedstocarryeverythingtotheman，andthemansroomonlyneedstobepreparedwithanemptyhouse.thenextmorning，aweddingprocessionwasarrangedforthemantogotothewomanshousetoweleher.themenhadtogo，includingthegroom，twobrides（women），fivetosixgongsandcobaltteams，andpeoplecarryingthings.theyallwenttothewomanshousetohavebreakfasttogether，blowingandplaying.Afterdinner，thewomansentoffthewedding，withonemanandtwowomenseeingoffthebride.theprocessioncarryingthingstookastepfirst，andthenthegroomandbridefollowedwithumbrellas.Regardlessoftheweather，eachpersonhadanumbrella，blowingandbeatingallthewaytothemanforlunch.

Afterdinner，theweddingsceneisalsothemostlivelysceneduringmarriage.thepurposeistohelpthegroomandbrideeliminatethefeelingofshyness.Variousprogramstrytomaketheirbodyandskincontact，suchasmouthtomoutheatingdates，twopeoplelightingfirecrackers，kittensfishing，andashpicking.themoretricks，thebetter.Nomatterhowbigorsmall，theycanmakeasmuchnoiseastheywant.Afterthe1980s，thehabitofmakingweddingscenesgraduallychangedtowatchingmovies，videos，andsinging.

conclusion:marriageinthaterawasthesimplest，especiallyforofficeworkersandworkerswhoatethenationalfood，letaloneworryaboutanything.theyhadfreelove，andwhentheygotmarried，theirunithadashareofthehouse.theunitleaderswouldpersonallyholdtheweddingfortheyoungcouple，andaftermarriage，theyoungcoupleslowlymadesomefurniture.Unlikenow，housesmustbeboughtbythemselves，andsomepeoplewouldbeepropertyslavesforalifetime.thaterawastrulysocialist!

Later，withthedevelopmentofsocietyandtheimprovementofmateriallivingstandards，betrothalgiftsemerged，startingwiththreemajoritems:bicycles，watches，andsewingmachines.Later，itdevelopedintofourmajoritems，fivemajoritems，andsoon，untilnow，Iwontsaymuchaboutit.